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Recovering from Past Sexual Mistakes

Recovering from past sexual mistakes requires a combination of spiritual, emotional, and relational healing. First and foremost, it is essential to acknowledge the harm and shame that may have resulted from past experiences. This acknowledgment is a crucial step towards healing and moving forward. As Kathy and I have said, "sex in a marriage is like oil left in a car - it can be drained, but it can never be refilled to the same level as before." This means that past mistakes cannot be changed or undone, but they can be used as opportunities for growth and learning.

Prayer is a vital component of recovering from past sexual mistakes. It is where purity begins to take root in the heart. The Bible teaches us that we can be forgiven by God and often by offended family members as well, but this does not erase the consequences of our actions. However, with prayer, we can seek healing and freedom from the memories and emotions associated with past experiences. This can lead to a more fulfilling relationship in marriage, where both partners are able to move forward together. As the Bible says, "I can do all this through him who gives me strength" (Philippians 4:13).

To recover from past sexual mistakes, it is also essential to redefine sex as a marital relationship. This means moving past the hurt, shame, guilt, and angst associated with sex outside of marriage. By doing so, we can focus on building a healthy and fulfilling sex life with our partner. This requires openness, honesty, and vulnerability in our relationships. As we work through our past mistakes, we can learn to see sex as a gift from God, rather than a source of shame or guilt. By doing so, we can experience a deeper level of intimacy and connection with our partner, and build a stronger, more resilient marriage. Ultimately, recovering from past sexual mistakes requires a willingness to confront our past, seek healing and forgiveness, and redefine our understanding of sex and relationships. With God's help and guidance, we can overcome our past mistakes and build a brighter future together.