Biblical Answer

Forgiveness is an act of self-defense that stops the fatal bleeding of resentment. It is an unnatural act that takes practice to perfect. When we are hurt, it can be challenging to forgive, especially when we're feeling anxious. However, forgiveness is not a one-time event but a process that requires us to continually relinquish our bitterness. It's essential to pinpoint what was taken from us and complete the cycle of forgiveness. This can be especially helpful for those whose hurt has happened in the past. For daily offenses, a quick, simple, but sincere forgiveness can be beneficial.

The connection between our forgiving and being forgiven is graphically expounded in Scripture. Forgiveness cannot be a one-way street. When we forgive others, we are not rewarding our enemies but rather extending a gift to them. This gift is costly, as it was the price paid at Calvary. Forgiveness is accompanied by a hatred of sin and a hunger for righteousness. If we lack these qualities, our forgiveness may be spurious. Forgiveness is a core divine attribute that brought us into God's community, and it's essential for our peace and relationship with our Maker.

When we forgive, we make ourselves free, not the other person. Forgiveness doesn't make the other person right; it makes us free from the burden of resentment. This is a heart thing, and it's essential to understand that forgiveness is a decision we make, not a feeling. It's not about how we feel but about what we choose to do. Forgiveness is a process that requires us to continually choose to forgive, even when it's challenging. By doing so, we can break free from the cycle of bitterness and resentment, and find peace and freedom in our relationships and with God.