Biblical Answer

When your children grow up and you're no longer the one making decisions for them, there are several things that can happen. One possibility is that they will adopt the values and beliefs you taught them, and live a life that reflects those values. However, it's also possible that they will reject those values and choose to live a life that is different from what you envisioned for them. As a parent, it's natural to feel a sense of loss or regret when your children grow up and make choices that are not in line with your own values or desires.

Another possibility is that your children will develop their own sense of identity and independence, and make their own decisions about their lives. This can be a challenging time for parents, as it means letting go of the control and influence they once had over their children's lives. However, it's also an opportunity for parents to model healthy relationships and to demonstrate to their children how to navigate difficult decisions and conflicts in a way that is respectful and loving.

Ultimately, as a parent, you have the opportunity to pass on your values and legacy to your children, but you do not have control over their choices or outcomes. As the Bible says, "Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it" (Proverbs 22:6). This means that your role as a parent is to teach and guide your children, but not to control their decisions or outcomes. By trusting in God's sovereignty and allowing your children to make their own choices, you can model a healthy and loving relationship that will benefit them for the rest of their lives.