Biblical Answer

When your children grow up and you're no longer in charge, you have several options. You can either hand over the responsibility for their lives to them, or you can continue to try to control their every move. However, if you try to control them, you will inevitably create a power struggle, and this will damage your relationship with them. Instead, you should focus on building a strong relationship with your children, based on trust, respect, and open communication. This will allow them to develop into independent and critical thinkers, and will give them the confidence to make their own decisions.

If you do not hand over responsibility to your children, they will likely feel suffocated and trapped. They may feel like they are not being trusted to make their own decisions, and this can lead to resentment and anger. As a parent, it is your job to teach your children how to make good decisions, and to give them the freedom to make their own choices. This is not to say that you should not offer guidance and advice, but rather that you should allow your children to take ownership of their lives.

As a Christian parent, it is also important to remember that your relationship with your child is not a reflection of your worth as a parent. Just because your child makes mistakes or chooses to rebel against what you've taught them, does not mean that you are a bad parent. In fact, it is a natural part of the parenting process for children to test boundaries and push against authority. What is important is that you continue to love and support your child, even when they make mistakes, and that you trust in God's sovereignty over their lives. By doing so, you will be able to navigate the challenges of parenting with confidence and peace, knowing that you are doing what is best for your child.