Biblical Answer

Can love turn to anger when we feel unheard?

The Bible teaches that love is patient and kind (1 Corinthians 13:4). It is quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry (James 1:19). When we feel unheard, it can be easy to let anger take over. However, this is not the expression of love that God desires. Instead, love seeks to understand and respond with compassion. When we feel unheard, it is an opportunity to practice love by listening to the other person's perspective and seeking to understand their needs. This may involve asking questions, seeking clarification, and actively listening to what they have to say. By doing so, we can transform our anger into a more loving response.

The Bible also teaches that anger can be a judgment we make about others, but it can also be a judgment we make about ourselves. When we feel unheard, it can be easy to feel frustrated and angry, but this can also be a sign that we are struggling with low self-worth. When we are unsure of our own worth, we may feel like we are not deserving of love and attention, and this can lead to anger and resentment towards others. However, the Bible teaches that we are loved and valued by God, and that our worth is not defined by our circumstances or the opinions of others. By reminding ourselves of our worth in God's eyes, we can begin to let go of anger and cultivate a more loving response.

Ultimately, love can turn to anger when we feel unheard, but it is our response that determines whether this anger leads to further conflict or to a more loving outcome. When we feel unheard, we have a choice to make: we can let anger take over and escalate the situation, or we can seek to understand and respond with compassion. The Bible teaches that love is patient and kind, and that it is quick to listen and slow to become angry. By practicing love in this way, we can transform our anger into a more loving response and cultivate deeper, more meaningful relationships with others. As the Bible says, "Love remembers its own offences and sins and the great forgiveness received, and therefore does not constantly pick at the offences of others" (Proverbs 10:12). By keeping our focus on God's love and forgiveness, we can cultivate a more loving response even in the midst of anger and frustration.