Biblical Answer

Can I still be a good partner if I'm struggling?

Introduction

In a world where marriage and relationships are often seen as a means to happiness and fulfillment, it is refreshing to hear that the Bible paints a different picture. Marriage is not about finding a tension-free life or a better spouse, but about serving and giving to one another, just as God has served and given to us. In this context, it is essential to address the question of whether one can still be a good partner while struggling with their own issues.

The Importance of Perseverance

The Bible teaches us that perseverance is crucial in relationships, especially when we are struggling. In the midst of a difficult marriage, it is easy to give up and feel like we are not good enough. However, the Bible encourages us to persevere, even when things seem hopeless. In 2 Corinthians 12:9-10, Paul writes, "But he said to me, 'My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.' Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ's power may rest on me." This verse reminds us that our weaknesses and struggles are not a barrier to being a good partner, but rather an opportunity for God's power to be displayed in our lives.

The Role of Faith in Relationships

Ultimately, being a good partner is not about our own strength or ability, but about our faith in God. When we put our trust in Him, He gives us the power to love and serve our partners, even in the midst of struggles. In 1 Corinthians 13:4-7, Paul writes, "Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres." This passage reminds us that love, which is the foundation of any good relationship, is not based on our own strength, but on our faith in God and His power to work in us. Therefore, even if we are struggling, we can still be a good partner if we put our trust in God and seek to love and serve our partner with patience, kindness, and perseverance.