Biblical Answer

The Bible teaches that anger is a complex emotion that requires careful management. As believers, we are called to handle our anger in a way that honors God and reflects His character. The first step in managing anger is to examine our own heart and motives. This involves taking a long, hard look at ourselves and being honest about our own anger and hurt. As Proverbs 20:5 says, "The purpose in a man's heart is like deep water, but a man of understanding will draw it out." This means that we need to be willing to explore our own emotions and thoughts in order to understand why we are angry.

Once we have a better understanding of our own heart, we can begin to pray for God to temper our anger with patience and love. This involves asking God to help us respond to situations in a way that is consistent with His character. As Ephesians 4:26-27 says, "Be angry and do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your wrath, nor give place to the devil." This means that we need to be careful not to let our anger simmer and burn for too long, but instead to deal with it quickly and in a way that honors God. It also means that we need to be mindful of the devil's influence and not let him use our anger to tempt us to sin.

Ultimately, managing anger is not about eliminating it completely, but about learning to handle it in a way that honors God. As Psalm 37:8 says, "Cease from anger and forsake wrath; do not fret—it leads only to evil." This means that we need to be willing to let go of our anger and trust God to work things out for our good. By doing so, we can experience the peace and joy that comes from knowing and trusting God, even in the midst of difficult circumstances. As Jesus said, "Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest" (Matthew 11:28). By coming to God and seeking His help, we can learn to manage our anger in a way that honors Him and brings us closer to Him.