How do we tend the garden of relationships when life gets busy?

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As a pastor and a husband of 19 years, I've learned that tending the garden of relationships requires effort and commitment, especially when life gets busy. It's easy to get caught up in our own pursuits and let relationships suffer, but that's when we need to make a conscious effort to prioritize them. My wife Susan and I have been through ups and downs, but we've learned to communicate effectively and make time for each other despite our busy schedules.

I believe that relationships are like a long walk, as Kathleen and Thomas Hart described it. Some days are exciting and full of conversation, while others can be dull and quiet. But it's in those quiet moments that we need to make a choice to move toward each other, to prioritize our relationship and seek to understand each other's needs. As a pastor, I've seen many couples struggle with this, but those who commit to moving toward each other, even when it's hard, are the ones who experience the most satisfaction in their relationships.

For me, it's about learning to be generous with my wife, even when I'm not getting the satisfaction I want out of our relationship. This is what I call "love economics." Without the help of the Spirit, it's impossible to be generous without becoming resentful. But when we prioritize our relationship and seek to understand each other's needs, we can experience a deep internal fullness that allows us to be generous and loving, even in the tough times. That's what I strive for in my relationship with Susan, and I believe it's what makes our marriage strong.

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