What happens when love turns to dust in our daily lives when life gets busy?

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As a pastor, I've seen many couples struggle with the reality of marriage after the initial infatuation wears off. When life gets busy, it's easy for love to turn to dust. The routine of daily life can make it difficult to maintain the level of passion and excitement that characterized the early stages of a relationship. It's not that the love is gone, but rather it's been replaced by a deeper, more mature love that is built on a foundation of commitment and sacrifice.

Gary Chapman's concept of the "in-love phase" is particularly relevant here. He suggests that this phase, which typically lasts several months to two years, is characterized by an unrealistic idealization of one's partner. But as the years go by, the illusion wears off, and the reality of our partner's flaws and imperfections becomes apparent. It's at this point that couples must make a choice: either to dump their spouse and seek out a new infatuation, or to seek to understand the message behind the disillusionment and work to build a deeper, more mature love.

In my own marriage, I've seen this play out. My wife Susan and I have been married for 19 years, and while we've had our ups and downs, we've learned to navigate the inevitable seasons of dryness and coldness. We've come to understand that our love is not just about the emotions, but about a commitment to serve and sacrifice for one another. It's a love that grows out of a deep attraction to each other's character, future, and mission in life. And it's a love that requires effort and intentionality to maintain, especially when life gets busy.

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