Biblical Answer

The best way to show kindness to those around us is to be genuinely kind, not just pretending to be kind. Jesus teaches us that when we fast or give to the poor, we should not do it to be seen by others, but to be rewarded by our Father in heaven (Matthew 6:16-18). This means that we should not try to appear nice just to get compliments or praise from others. Instead, we should focus on being kind and compassionate towards others, regardless of whether they are nice or not. This is the kind of kindness that is "real" and not just a "pretence" that leads up to the real thing.

To show kindness to those around us, we need to cultivate a wholesome, integrated personality. This means being aware of our thoughts, words, and deeds, and making sure they align with the values of kindness and compassion. We should strive to be like Jesus, who showed kindness and mercy to those around him, even to those who were evil. We should also remember that kindness is not just about being nice to others, but also about being respectful and dignified in our interactions with them. This means using soft voices in certain places, not barging past people in lines, and showing the forgiving mercy of Christ in all our relations with others.

Ultimately, showing kindness to those around us is not just about being nice, but about reflecting the character of Jesus Christ. When we live a life that is characterized by kindness, compassion, and mercy, we are showing the world what it means to be a follower of Jesus. We are also showing the world that we are grateful for the kindness and compassion that Jesus has shown us, and that we want to pass that on to others. As the Bible says, "Bind them around your neck, write them on the tablet of your heart" (Proverbs 4:23). This means that we should make kindness and compassion a priority in our lives, and strive to live out these values in every aspect of our relationships with others.