Biblical Answer

The Illusion of Perfect Love

When love turns to dust, it is often because we have idealized it. We have believed that our partner is the answer to all our problems, the solution to our deepest longings. We have made them into a god, and no human being can fulfill that role. When the harsh realities of life set in, and our partner's flaws become apparent, we are often disillusioned and angry. We have been living in a fantasy, and the crash back to reality is painful.

The Essence of Marriage

Marriage is not about the euphoria of the newlywed period, but about building a lifelong relationship. It is about learning to love unconditionally, to forgive freely, and to serve sacrificially. It is about recognizing that our partner is a fellow sinner, just like us, and that we are both in need of God's forgiveness and grace. When love turns to dust, it is often because we have forgotten this essence of marriage. We have forgotten that our partner is not our savior, but our companion, and that our relationship is not about finding happiness, but about serving God together.

The Power of God's Love

But what happens when love turns to dust? It is then that we are reminded of the power of God's love. His love is not subject to fluctuations, but is unchangeable and gratuitous. It is not founded on our attractiveness, but on His own character. His love is the engine that drives our relationships, and it is the only thing that can sustain us through the difficult times. When we turn to God's love, we are reminded that our relationships are not about us, but about Him. We are reminded that our partner is not our savior, but our brother or sister in Christ, and that our relationship is not about finding happiness, but about serving God together. In this way, we can find the strength and the courage to love again, even when love has turned to dust.