Biblical Answer

The Seeds of Love in Daily Routines

Nurturing the seeds of love in our daily routines is crucial for a healthy and fulfilling marriage. As the Bible teaches, love is not just a feeling, but a choice that we make every day. In order to make this choice, we need to cultivate habits of love, service, and self-discipline that will enable our passion to grow in breadth and depth over time. This can be achieved by doing small acts of kindness and service for each other, such as planning walks, sitting together, and making time for one another alone. These small actions can help us to make love a habit, rather than just a feeling.

Deliberate Love over Romantic Love

When the early experience of romantic love wears off, it can be challenging to make a good transition to loving our spouse deliberately and well over the long term. However, as the Bible teaches, love is not just a feeling, but a choice that we make every day. By choosing to act in loving ways, even when we don't feel like it, we can cultivate a deeper and more enduring love for our spouse. This can be achieved by making a conscious effort to prioritize our marriage, even when it's hard, and by seeking to understand and support each other's needs and desires. By doing so, we can create a strong foundation for a lifelong marriage.

The Importance of Habits

Our habits have the power to shape our loves and longings, and can either nourish or destroy our relationships. By choosing to cultivate habits of love, service, and self-discipline, we can create a strong foundation for a lifelong marriage. This can be achieved by doing small acts of kindness and service for each other, such as planning walks, sitting together, and making time for one another alone. By making love a habit, rather than just a feeling, we can create a deep and enduring love for our spouse that will last a lifetime. As the Bible teaches, "We love because he first loved us" (1 John 4:19), and by choosing to love our spouse deliberately and well, we can experience the joy and fulfillment that comes from a lifelong marriage.