how can i still be a good partner when i'm struggling to make ends meet?

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As a pastor and a husband, I've seen many couples struggle to make ends meet, and it's a challenge that my wife Susan and I have faced ourselves. But I've come to realize that it's not just about the external circumstances, but about the internal fullness that frees us to be generous with each other, even when we're not getting the satisfaction we want out of the relationship. This is what I call "love economics." Without the help of the Spirit, it's virtually impossible to submit to the interests of the other without becoming resentful.

When we're struggling to make ends meet, it's easy to become focused on our own needs and wants, and to start keeping track of who's giving more and who's getting less. But that's not the way of the Spirit. Instead, we need to view meeting the other person's demands as part of our own spiritual formation. We need to see our giving as an opportunity to grow in the grace of giving, to become more gentle, forgiving, gracious, and kind. This means praying that God might use our struggles to root out our selfishness and to teach us to serve each other more fully.

As I look at my own marriage, I see that this is exactly what's happened. When Susan and I first got married, we were both excited and idealistic, but over time we've come to see each other's flaws and imperfections. But instead of becoming resentful, we've learned to view our struggles as opportunities to grow in our relationship with God and with each other. We've learned to give more freely, not because we're getting something in return, but because we're motivated by a desire to serve each other and to become more like Christ. This is the secret to a healthy and fulfilling marriage, and it's something that I wish I could share with every couple I meet.

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