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The Impact of Prioritizing Short-Term Gains Over Long-Term Relationships When Feeling Anxious

When Feeling Anxious, Prioritizing Short-Term Gains Over Long-Term Relationships Can Have Negative Consequences

When we're feeling anxious, it's easy to get caught up in seeking short-term gains, such as immediate gratification or relief from our discomfort. However, prioritizing these short-term gains over long-term relationships can have negative consequences. For instance, rushing into marriage without fully cultivating a friendship and emotional connection can lead to increased expectations and decreased commitment to the relationship. This can ultimately result in a marriage that is less fulfilling and less sustainable in the long run.

A Focus on Short-Term Gains Can Lead to Emotional Instability and Decreased Commitment

Research has shown that individuals who prioritize short-term gains, such as increased earnings, are more likely to have marital social norms that lead to decreased commitment to the relationship. This is because the emotional drive for the security of an intimate relationship in marriage is often stronger in women, and when this drive is not met, it can lead to increased frustration and tension. Furthermore, when we prioritize short-term gains, we are more likely to focus on our own individual needs and desires, rather than working together as a team to build a strong and fulfilling relationship.

A Long-Term Focus on Relationships Can Lead to Greater Fulfillment and Stability

On the other hand, prioritizing long-term relationships and focusing on building a strong foundation of friendship and emotional connection can lead to greater fulfillment and stability. This requires effort and patience, but the rewards are well worth it. As Jesus teaches, "do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothes?" (Matthew 6:25). By focusing on building a strong relationship and trusting in God's sovereignty, we can find greater peace and stability, even in the midst of anxiety. Ultimately, prioritizing long-term relationships over short-term gains is a key to building a strong and fulfilling marriage that can withstand the challenges of life.