My friend, I can relate to the pain you're feeling. As a pastor and a husband, I've seen my fair share of struggles in relationships. But I want to tell you that it's possible to have a good relationship with your family even when you're in pain. In fact, it's in those moments of pain that we need to lean on each other even more. When my wife Susan and I were going through a tough time in our marriage, we made a conscious decision to pray for each other and for our relationship. We covered each other in prayer, and it made all the difference.
You see, pain can be a barrier to relationships, but it's not a reason to give up on them. When we're in pain, it's easy to become isolated and withdrawn, but that's exactly what we need to avoid. We need to reach out to our loved ones, to communicate with them, and to work through our issues together. It's not always easy, but it's worth it. As the Bible says, "Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs." (1 Corinthians 13:4-5). We need to love each other like that, even when it's hard.
So, my advice to you is to don't give up on your family relationships, even when you're in pain. Instead, reach out to them, communicate with them, and pray for each other. Remember that love is a choice, and it's something that we need to choose every day. As I always say to my congregation, "Love is not a feeling, it's a decision." So, let's make the decision to love each other, even when it's hard.