As a pastor and a husband, I've learned that showing love to those around us, especially when we're feeling stuck, requires a commitment to act and serve in love even when it's not reciprocated. When I first fell in love with my wife Susan, it was a passionate and all-consuming feeling, but as time went by, that initial rush of emotions couldn't be sustained. However, by continuing to act out of love and serving her even when I didn't feel like it, I found that my emotions eventually caught up with my behavior, and I began to see her in a new light.
It's not about relying on natural affection, but about making a conscious effort to show love in various ways. This can be as simple as planning walks, sitting before a fireplace, or arranging picnics. Even making an effort to arrange these activities is an important sign and expression of love. As a family, we need to be intentional about creating an affectionate climate, which includes being playful, fun, and romantic. This doesn't mean we have to be constantly on the lookout for ways to express love, but rather, we should be committed to loving each other through the ups and downs of life.
In fact, the Bible teaches us that love should be expressed in various ways, including being thankful, greeting each other, praying for each other, listening to each other, and touching each other. When we're feeling stuck, it's essential to remember that love is not just a feeling, but an action. By choosing to love and serve each other, even when it's not easy, we can create a more loving and supportive environment in our relationships.