Biblical Answer

The Dangers of Prioritizing Happiness

When we prioritize happiness over all else, we risk becoming self-absorbed and unable to empathize with others. This can lead to a culture of isolation and disconnection, where individuals become so focused on their own pain and suffering that they are unable to connect with others who may be experiencing similar struggles. In this way, prioritizing happiness can actually exacerbate the problem of hurt, rather than alleviating it.

The Importance of Empathy and Compassion

In contrast, when we prioritize others over ourselves, we are able to develop a deeper understanding and empathy for those who are hurting. This is because we are able to see beyond our own pain and connect with the pain of others. As the Bible teaches, "weep with those who weep" (Romans 12:15). When we hurt with others, we are able to form deeper relationships and build stronger bonds with those around us. This is particularly important in times of suffering, when our natural tendency may be to pull away from others. Instead, we are called to lean in and connect with those who are hurting, just as Jesus did with those around him.

The Power of Trust and Obedience

Ultimately, the greatest challenge we face when we are hurting is not the pain itself, but our tendency to trust in our own power to overcome it. When we prioritize happiness above all else, we may try to take matters into our own hands and find ways to alleviate our pain through our own efforts. However, this can lead to a culture of self-reliance and independence, where individuals become isolated and disconnected from others. In contrast, when we learn to trust in God's power and sovereignty, we are able to find peace and comfort in the midst of suffering. As the Bible teaches, "God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble" (Psalm 46:1). When we learn to trust in God's power and sovereignty, we are able to find the strength and courage to persevere in the face of hurt and suffering.