Biblical Answer

Choosing Between Warmth and Safety in Love

When it comes to love, we often face a dilemma between warmth and safety. On one hand, we desire to be loved and to love others deeply, but on the other hand, we also want to protect ourselves from potential harm. This conflict can lead to a decision to remain guarded or to love only as we are loved. However, this approach can lead to a lack of intimacy and a sacrificial spirit.

The Importance of Love's Motives and Intentions

Love cannot be restricted to actions alone, but also involves motives and intentions. When confronted with a situation where our best interest or the best interest of God comes into conflict, love must make a choice. In such cases, the controlling love becomes evident. We must consider how we want to be loved and use that as a measure to love others. This means being vulnerable and open, rather than protecting ourselves from potential harm.

Choosing Love Over Fear

Ultimately, love requires us to choose between warmth and safety. If we prioritize safety over love, we risk inviting fear into future relationships, which can undermine intimacy. However, if we choose to love, we can experience a deeper and more meaningful connection with others. As C.S. Lewis said, "We become more loving by experiencing love, not by hearing about it in a lecture or reading about it in a book." By choosing love over fear, we can experience a true and lasting connection with others, and ultimately, with God. As the Bible says, "Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs." (1 Corinthians 13:4-5) By choosing love, we can experience a deeper and more meaningful connection with others, and ultimately, with God.