Biblical Answer

The Question: How do I handle the anger?

The Answer:

Understanding Anger

Anger is a natural emotion that arises when we perceive an injustice or a wrong. It can be a challenging emotion to manage, especially when we feel that someone has done us wrong. However, anger can also be a destructive force if not handled properly. As the Bible says, "Anger may come, even for good cause, but it is not to hang around like a cloud over relationships." (The Heart of Anger) When anger lingers, it creates an opportunity for the devil to take control, and this is something we should avoid.

Dealing with Anger in Ourselves and Others

When we feel angry, it's essential to take a step back and examine our own heart. We must be experts in knowing our own heart, as Proverbs 24:23-25 advises. This involves being honest with ourselves about our emotions and motivations. In the context of parenting, it's crucial to talk with our spouse about how to deal with our child's anger. We should be filled with and under the control of the Spirit when correcting our child's behavior, as Ephesians 4:2-3 instructs. When dealing with our own anger, we can ask God to temper it with patience and love, as 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 encourages. Prayer is an excellent way to test our hearts and seek God's guidance.

Finding a Biblical Approach to Anger

A biblical approach to anger involves recognizing that it's ultimately about God. When we're angry, it often reveals that we don't trust him or have faith in his sovereignty. This can be an opportunity to know him better and understand his character. As the Bible says, "What you come to understand will surprise you." (The Heart of Anger) Rather than trying to suppress or vent our anger, we can seek to understand its root causes and respond in a way that honors God. By doing so, we can learn to manage our anger in a way that builds stronger relationships and deepens our faith. Remember, "Love and wisdom are your guides. They lead neither to enabling nor condemnation. Instead, they surprise with grace." (The Heart of Anger)