Biblical Answer

In considering the question of whether to forgive a family member who has not repented and asked for forgiveness, we must first examine the biblical teaching on forgiveness. The Bible teaches that forgiveness is a choice we make, not based on the other person's actions or worthiness, but based on God's character and our relationship with Him. Jesus said, "If your brother sins, rebuke him; and if he repents, forgive him" (Luke 17:3). This verse implies that forgiveness is conditional upon the other person's repentance, but it does not necessarily mean that we must forgive if they do not repent.

However, the Bible also teaches that forgiveness is not dependent on the other person's actions or feelings. In Matthew 6:14-15, Jesus says, "For if you forgive men when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive men their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins." This verse suggests that our ability to forgive others is linked to our ability to receive forgiveness from God. Therefore, even if the other person does not repent, we are still called to forgive them as an act of obedience to God.

Ultimately, forgiveness is not about the other person or their actions, but about our relationship with God. When we forgive others, we are not condoning or justifying their behavior, but rather trusting in God's justice and sovereignty. As the Bible says, "God causes all things to work together for good to those who love God, to those who are called according to His purpose" (Romans 8:28). By forgiving others, we are not only releasing them from the burden of our anger and resentment, but also trusting in God's ability to work out His good purposes in their lives. In this sense, forgiveness is not about the other person, but about our faith in God's goodness and sovereignty.