Biblical Answer

The Dilemma of Forgiveness and Forgetfulness

The question of whether we can forgive but not forget is a complex and sensitive issue. On one hand, we are often told that forgiveness is a necessary step in healing and moving on from past hurts. On the other hand, we may struggle to forget the pain and trauma inflicted upon us by others. The Bible teaches us that forgiveness does not mean forgetting, but rather releasing the person who has wronged us from the burden of our resentment and bitterness. In Matthew 6:14-15, Jesus says, "For if you forgive men when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive men their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins." This passage emphasizes the importance of forgiveness in our relationship with God and with others.

However, the idea that we can forgive but not forget is a common misconception. When we hold onto resentment and bitterness, it can poison our souls and prevent us from experiencing true healing and freedom. In 2 Corinthians 2:10-11, the apostle Paul writes, "Forgive him, that you may show love to him as you would to your brother. The God and Father of the Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, will comfort you and your troubles." This passage highlights the importance of forgiveness as a means of demonstrating love and compassion towards others, and receiving comfort and healing from God.

In conclusion, while it may be difficult to forget the pain and trauma inflicted upon us by others, forgiveness is a necessary step in healing and moving on from past hurts. Forgiveness does not mean forgetting, but rather releasing the person who has wronged us from the burden of our resentment and bitterness. As we strive to forgive others, we must also seek to forgive ourselves and trust in God's forgiveness and redemption. Ultimately, forgiveness is a choice that requires humility, compassion, and trust in God's sovereignty and goodness. As we choose to forgive, we open ourselves up to receive God's love, comfort, and healing, and experience true freedom and liberation.