Biblical Answer

In this case, I believe that your child betrayed you because of a combination of factors. Firstly, it's possible that your child may have been influenced by negative peer pressure, or even bullied by someone, which can lead to feelings of anger, resentment, and a desire to lash out. Secondly, your child may have been struggling with their own emotions and may not have known how to express them in a healthy way. This can lead to acting out in negative behaviors, such as lying or hurting others. Lastly, your child may have been trying to get attention or provoke a reaction from you, which can be a cry for help.

As a Christian, I believe that we should pray for our children and ask God to help us understand their behavior and to guide us in how to respond. It's also important to take responsibility for our own actions and to ask our children for forgiveness when we have hurt them. This can help to model healthy communication and conflict resolution skills, and can also help to break negative patterns in our children. As Bonhoeffer says, "he bears more truth than if he had betrayed his father's weakness." This means that even if our children have failed in some way, it's never too late for them to confess and repent, and to be forgiven, healed, and made new.

In terms of how to restore our relationship with our child, I believe that it's essential to be willing to listen to them, to validate their feelings, and to model healthy communication and conflict resolution skills. This may involve having difficult conversations, apologizing for our own mistakes, and seeking to understand our child's perspective. As the Bible says, "He who trusts in his own heart is a fool, but he who walks in wisdom is kept safe." By seeking wisdom and guidance from God, and by being willing to learn and grow alongside our children, we can help to build strong, healthy relationships with them, even in the midst of betrayal or failure. Ultimately, our goal should be to help our children develop a strong sense of self-worth, self-respect, and self-love, and to teach them how to navigate difficult emotions and situations in a healthy and constructive way.