Biblical Answer

The Paradox of Losing Ourselves to Find Ourselves

When we feel like we're losing ourselves, it's essential to recognize that this is a common experience for many people. In fact, the Bible teaches that when we lose ourselves in following Christ, we actually find ourselves. True self-denial is true self-discovery. To achieve this, we must be willing to do things that are important, true, and good, rather than things that feel urgent but are ungodly. This requires self-control, which can be waylaid by not wanting to do it or saying "No" to it.

The key to overcoming this struggle is to remember the grace of God and the importance of having a personal relationship with Jesus Christ. When we know that we should do something and we do it, immediately we know more. This is because God is working in us to will and to do according to His good pleasure (Philippians 2:13). To maintain this relationship, we must continually pick ourselves up, even if we fall a hundred and one times a day, until we get into the habit of putting God first and planning with Him in mind. This requires discipline, but it's a discipline that leads to freedom and joy.

To overcome the feelings of guilt, anger, greed, and jealousy that can lead to losing ourselves, we must develop new habits. This involves addressing our past, breaking old habits, setting new standards, getting out of debt, and focusing on spiritual growth. We must also be proactive about a new strategy to handle failure, pray for God's help, and apply our new strategy to the next failure. By doing so, we can break free from the cycle of self-pity, grumbling, and complaining that can lead to depression and find true self-discovery in following Christ. As we journey through this process, it's essential to remember that we are not alone and that we need the support of others to stay on the path and to help us back up when we fall. By doing so, we can find true freedom and joy in Christ.