Biblical Answer

I can understand why you'd feel that way. As a pastor, I've seen many people struggle with suffering, and it's not uncommon for them to wonder why they have to endure so much pain while others seem to be spared. But as I've learned from Scripture, suffering is not just a random event - it's a way that God refines us and makes us useful in His hands.

When we go through difficult experiences, it's not just about us; it's also about understanding what others go through. This is why Christ's sufferings are so important to us. He suffered according to God's will, and it's only through our relationship with Him that we can understand what God is after in His dealings with us. When we come to suffering, it's an opportunity for us to learn from Him and trust in His goodness, even when things don't make sense.

As I look at my own life, I've seen how my family's struggles can affect those around me. When I'm not careful, my own selfishness and weakness can cause harm to those I love. But when I seek to follow Jesus and live out of His strength, I find that I'm able to love and serve others more deeply, even in the midst of suffering. It's not about avoiding suffering altogether, but about learning to trust in God's goodness and character, even when things are hard.