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Your Question:
how do i explain this to my kids when they're already struggling?
Answer:
As a father of two teenagers, I've found that it's essential to strike a balance between helping them and giving them the space to learn and grow on their own. When they're struggling, it's natural to want to jump in and fix the problem, but that can actually hinder their development. Instead, I try to guide them with prayers, encouraging them to do their tasks with love and patience. By doing so, they learn to take ownership of their problems and develop the skills they need to become independent and critical thinkers. It's also crucial to teach them how to work through their feelings and circumstances without resorting to tattling or seeking immediate solutions. When they come to me with a problem, I try to sit down with them and explain that they need to learn to work things out before coming to me. This helps them develop conflict resolution skills and understand that I won't always be their referee. By giving them the space to figure things out, I'm helping them build resilience and learn to persevere, which is essential for becoming a strong adult. As a parent, it's also essential to listen to their insignificant issues and give them full attention. This helps them feel heard and understood, which builds trust and strengthens our relationship. By modeling how to disagree without being disagreeable, I'm teaching them essential communication skills that will serve them well in life. And when they do make mistakes, I try to focus on the positive aspects of their behavior and encourage them to learn from their mistakes, rather than simply scolding or punishing them.
Sources:
raising kids to follow christ
lee ann mancini
raising passionate jesus followers
phil diane comer
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