Biblical Answer

Preparing to Have the Conversation

Having the conversation with your kids about your impending death can be a challenging and emotional experience. It is essential to approach this conversation with sensitivity, compassion, and honesty. Before having the conversation, take time to reflect on your relationship with your kids and how you can use this opportunity to strengthen your bond and deepen their understanding of God's love. As a parent, you have the privilege of being a spiritual guide and mentor to your children. Use this moment to remind them of God's unwavering love and commitment to them, as expressed in Deuteronomy 31:6 (NIV), "Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the Lord your God goes with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you."

Honesty and Vulnerability

When having the conversation with your kids, be honest and transparent about your situation. Let them know that you love them deeply and that your death is not a reflection of your love for them. Use this opportunity to remind them of the importance of trusting in God's sovereignty and goodness, even in the midst of difficult circumstances. As you share your feelings and concerns, create space for your kids to express their emotions and questions. Be patient, empathetic, and understanding, and avoid giving empty warnings or making promises you may not be able to keep. Instead, focus on using the four tools of training your kids to instinctively run to the Word for comfort from the Spirit: prayer, listening, giving, and training. By doing so, you can help your kids develop a strong foundation of faith and trust in God's goodness.

Emphasizing God's Love and Presence

Throughout the conversation, emphasize God's love and presence in their lives. Remind them that God is always with them, even when you are not. Encourage them to trust in God's goodness and sovereignty, and to seek comfort and guidance from Him. As you share your love and appreciation for your kids, express your gratitude for the opportunity to be their parent and spiritual guide. By doing so, you can help your kids understand that your death is not the end, but rather a new beginning for you in the presence of God. As you close the conversation, leave your kids with a sense of peace, comfort, and hope, knowing that they are loved and cherished by God, and that He will always be with them.