Biblical Answer

Loving someone without affirming their choices involves a delicate balance between acceptance and guidance. On one hand, we must accept the person as they are, without judgment or disapproval. This means listening to them, understanding their perspective, and validating their feelings. However, this does not mean we have to agree with or condone their choices. In fact, the Bible teaches us to "speak the truth in love" (Ephesians 4:15), which means we should gently and lovingly express our concerns and convictions, even if they differ from theirs.

One way to love someone without affirming their choices is to focus on the person, not their actions. We can love someone without condoning their sin or sinful behavior. In fact, the Bible teaches us to love our neighbors as ourselves, even if they are not living according to God's standards (Matthew 22:39). This means we can love someone without affirming their choices, but still show them compassion, empathy, and kindness. We can also pray for them, ask God to bless them, and seek to understand their heart, even if we disagree with their actions.

Ultimately, loving someone without affirming their choices requires a commitment to love unconditionally, even when it's difficult. This means being willing to listen, to understand, and to show compassion, even when we disagree. It means being willing to speak the truth in love, even if it's uncomfortable or challenging. And it means being willing to pray for and seek God's guidance in our relationships, rather than trying to fix or change the other person. By doing so, we can demonstrate a love that is truly biblical, a love that is rooted in God's character and reflects His heart for humanity. As the Bible says, "Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres" (1 Corinthians 13:4-7). This is the kind of love we should strive for in all our relationships, including those where we disagree with someone's choices.