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What happens when I lose my independence?
Answer:
Losing independence is a difficult concept for many of us to grasp, especially as men. We're often taught to be strong, self-sufficient, and independent, but the Bible teaches us that true strength lies in surrendering our independence and becoming part of a greater unity. As a pastor, I've seen this play out in the lives of many couples who have learned to put the needs of their spouse and family above their own desires for independence. When we lose our independence, we're not losing our individuality or our sense of self. Rather, we're submitting our will to the will of Christ and becoming part of a larger whole. This can be a difficult pill to swallow, especially for men who are used to making decisions unilaterally and being in control. But as Paul says, "Whoever loses their life will save it" (Luke 9:24). This means that when we surrender our independence and put the needs of others above our own, we're actually gaining a deeper sense of purpose and fulfillment. In my own life, I've seen the benefits of surrendering independence firsthand. As a husband and father, I've learned to put the needs of my family above my own desires for control and independence. This hasn't always been easy, but it's led to a deeper sense of connection and unity with my wife, Susan, and our children, Joshua and Rebecca. And as I look to God, I'm reminded that He delights in me and rejoices over me, just as a bridegroom rejoices over his bride (Isaiah 62:5). This is a powerful reminder that true freedom and joy come not from independence, but from surrendering ourselves to a greater purpose.
Sources:
my utmost for his highest
oswald chambers
systematic theology
wayne grudem
dogmatic theology
shedd
meaning of marriage
timothy keller
basic christianity
john stott
sacred marriage
gary thomas
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