Biblical Answer

When we're feeling isolated or overwhelmed, it's essential to remember that kindness is not just about feeling friendly, but about being intentional and genuine in our actions towards others. One way to show kindness is to put on a friendly face and behave in a friendly manner, even if we're not feeling it. This can be as simple as saying hello to our neighbors, shaking hands with them, or engaging in a friendly conversation over coffee. As the Bible says, "Let us not give up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but let us encourage one another—and all the more as you see the Day approaching" (Hebrews 10:25). This means being present and available to others, even when we don't feel like it.

Another way to show kindness is to engage in acts of service and compassion towards others. This can be as simple as giving a hug, even if the other person stiffens up or backs away. Research suggests that people need at least twelve hugs every day to grow and thrive. As parents, we often try to artificially shorten the process of relational recovery with our children, but this can be counterproductive. Instead, we should focus on being present and available to them, even when we're feeling overwhelmed. This can be as simple as saying no to something we want to do, so that we can be present with our children.

Ultimately, showing kindness to those around us requires a willingness to be vulnerable and authentic. This means being honest about our feelings and needs, and being willing to receive affection and support from others. As the Bible says, "Sing to the Lord a new song; sing to the Lord, all the earth. Sing to the Lord, bless his name; proclaim his salvation from day to day" (Psalm 96:1-2). This means being intentional about cultivating a sense of community and connection with others, even when we're feeling isolated or overwhelmed. By being present, available, and vulnerable, we can show kindness to those around us and build strong, meaningful relationships.