Biblical Answer

The Role of Trust in Our Relationships When We're Feeling Hurt

When we're feeling hurt, trust becomes a significant issue in our relationships. It's natural to question whether we can truly rely on the other person, especially if they've caused us pain or hurt us in the past. However, as the Bible teaches us, trust is a fundamental aspect of true relational intimacy. This kind of trust arises from consistent, in-person interaction and is built by sharing fears, hurts, and weaknesses with one another. It's not just about having someone who is physically present but also someone who is emotionally available and willing to listen.

In our relationships, trust is not just about putting our faith in another person but also about trusting in the process of healing and restoration. When we've been hurt, it's easy to become guarded and defensive, making it challenging to trust others. However, trust is not about being naive or vulnerable but about being open and honest with one another. As the Bible says, "Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight" (Proverbs 3:5-6). This means trusting in God's sovereignty and goodness, even when we're hurt or uncertain.

In terms of rebuilding trust in our relationships, it's essential to remember that trust is a two-way street. We must be willing to be vulnerable and open with one another, while also being sensitive to each other's needs and boundaries. As the Bible teaches, "Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs" (1 Corinthians 13:4-5). By trusting in God's goodness and loving one another with this kind of love, we can rebuild trust in our relationships and create a safe and intimate connection with one another. Ultimately, trust is not just about our relationships with others but also about our relationship with God, who is the ultimate source of trust and intimacy. Ask yourself these questions: Are you more likely to trust someone when you don't know them well or after you've come to know them quite well? Do you trust a person more when you have a sense of control over them or when you have a sense of surrender? What are some ways you can cultivate trust in your relationships, and how can you apply the principles of trust to your relationship with God?