Biblical Answer

I. The Problem of Independence

The desire for independence is a fundamental aspect of human nature. As we grow to adulthood, we attain some degree of independence from others for our existence. However, this independence can often lead to a sense of isolation and disconnection from others. In the Bible, we see examples of individuals who have struggled with the desire for independence, such as the prodigal son who left his father's house and squandered his inheritance (Luke 15:11-24). This desire for independence can be driven by pride, which can lead us to disobey God and pursue our own desires rather than following His will.

II. The Consequences of Independence

When we prioritize our independence over our relationship with God, we can experience negative consequences. For example, we may become isolated and disconnected from others, leading to feelings of loneliness and disconnection. We may also experience spiritual darkness and confusion, as we seek to navigate our own path rather than following God's guidance. In contrast, when we submit to God's sovereignty and prioritize our relationship with Him, we can experience freedom and joy, even in the midst of difficult circumstances. As the apostle Paul wrote, "For I know that in me (that is, in my flesh) dwells no good thing; for to will is present with me, but how to perform what is good I do not find. For the good that I will to do, I do not do; but the evil I will not to do, that I practice. Now if I do what I will not to do, it is no longer I that do it, but sin that dwells in me" (Romans 7:18-20).

III. The Path to True Freedom

In order to experience true freedom and joy, we must be willing to submit to God's sovereignty and prioritize our relationship with Him. This requires a willingness to surrender our own desires and ambitions, and to trust in God's guidance and provision. As the Bible teaches, "Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight" (Proverbs 3:5-6). When we prioritize our relationship with God and submit to His sovereignty, we can experience true freedom and joy, even in the midst of difficult circumstances. This is the path to true independence, not from God, but from our own pride and self-reliance. As the apostle Paul wrote, "I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me" (Philippians 4:13).