Biblical Answer

The biblical prohibition against adultery is a protective measure, the violation of which brings destruction. Fidelity in marriage promotes the well-being of all in the family: it preserves the integrity of the couple and ensures that sex remains living and productive instead of used up and thrown away like a sort of empty container. Divorce destroys exclusivity by moving from one relationship to another, violating the marriage vow. This vow is an oath that is broken over time, making divorce a perilous spiritually. Adultery is the most serious violation of marriage and has been excoriated in the Scriptures. It has had few advocates in Western society until recently.

Jesus words on divorce (Matt. 5:31-32; compare with Matt. 19:3-12) are more difficult to understand. The account in Matthew 19 suggests the dissolution of marriage due to hardness of heart (sin), but Jesus prohibits divorce except on the ground of unchastity (rsv). This prohibition is not just about adultery, but also about the destruction of exclusivity and the violation of the marriage vow. Some interpreters infer that in instances where adultery has already brought destruction, the spouse who has not committed adultery is permitted to remarry.

The question of whether other grounds for divorce are included beyond physical adultery is a matter of debate. Some argue that Moses and Jesus used terms that usually cover more than physical adultery alone, while others resist allowing more than physical adultery as grounds justifying divorce. The Bible does not provide a clear answer to this question, but it does emphasize the importance of fidelity in marriage and the destruction that divorce can bring. Ultimately, the decision to divorce should not be taken lightly and should be approached with caution and a deep understanding of the biblical teachings on marriage and divorce.