Biblical Answer

To forgive someone who has betrayed you can be an extremely difficult task. It requires a willingness to let go of the hurt and anger that you feel, and to choose to release the person from any obligation they may have to you. The Bible teaches that we are to forgive others as God forgives us (Matthew 6:14-15). This means that we are to forgive others without expecting anything in return, just as God forgives us without expecting anything in return.

However, forgiveness is not the same as reconciliation. Reconciliation requires that both parties are willing to work towards healing and rebuilding the relationship. Forgiveness is a choice that we make, regardless of whether the other person is willing to reconcile or not. It's possible that the relationship may never be the same, but forgiveness can bring healing and freedom to us, even if the other person does not ask for forgiveness.

In the case of an adult child who has betrayed you, it's essential to consider the consequences of not forgiving them. Holding onto unforgiveness can lead to bitterness, resentment, and a strained relationship. On the other hand, choosing to forgive them can bring healing and freedom to both you and your child. It's not about condoning their behavior or excusing their actions, but about choosing to release the hurt and anger that you feel. As the Bible says, "Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, bless those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat you" (Luke 6:27-28). Forgiveness is a choice that we make, and it's a choice that can bring freedom and healing to our lives.