Biblical Answer

As a pastor and someone who's been married for 19 years, I've seen my fair share of struggles in marriage. But I truly believe that a good marriage can still be had even when you're in pain. It's not about ignoring the pain or pretending it doesn't exist, but about working through it together. I've seen couples come to me for counseling, feeling like they're at the end of their rope, but with prayer, commitment, and a willingness to work through their issues, they've been able to heal and come out stronger on the other side.

The key is to recognize that pain is a natural part of the healing process. It's like the old saying goes, "death to self is always painful." But this kind of pain leads to life. It's not about changing your spouse, but about changing yourself and being willing to work through the tough times together. I've seen couples who've been willing to put in the effort and seek God's guidance, only to have their marriages transformed in amazing ways. And I believe that's possible for anyone who's willing to put in the work.

It's not about one person changing the other, but about both people coming together and seeking God's will for their marriage. It's about being willing to humble yourselves before Him and seek His guidance. I've seen it time and time again - when couples come together and seek God's guidance, He can heal the wounds and put love back in their hearts. It's not always easy, but it's worth it. A good marriage is possible, even when you're in pain, and I believe that with God's help, any couple can achieve it.