Biblical Answer

Understanding Forgiveness

When it comes to forgiving an ex, it can be a challenging and complex issue. Many people struggle with the idea of forgiving someone who has hurt them, especially if the hurt was significant. However, forgiveness is not about saying that what the other person did was okay, but rather about trusting that God is the God of justice and saying, "Father, I forgive, and I trust that you will bring justice to this situation." Forgiveness is not about excusing or justifying the other person's behavior, but about releasing the hurt and anger that we hold onto.

The Process of Forgiveness

The process of forgiveness can be difficult and may require spiritual warfare. It is not something that we can do on our own, but rather something that requires the help of God. As the Bible says, "Bear one another's burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ" (Galatians 6:2). This means that we need to ask for help from others, such as a Christian friend or a counselor, to support us in the process of forgiveness. It also means that we need to be willing to forgive ourselves, as the addict in the example mentioned. The addict believes that God forgives him, but struggles to forgive himself. This is a common struggle, and one that requires the help of God.

The Importance of Forgiveness

Forgiveness is an important part of our spiritual growth and development. When we hold onto anger and hurt, it can bring death into our lives in one form or another. It can lead to bitterness, resentment, and even physical health problems. On the other hand, forgiveness brings life and healing. It allows us to move forward and to experience the joy and peace that God desires for us. As the Bible says, "If you forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father also will forgive you" (Matthew 6:14). This means that forgiveness is not just something that we do for others, but also something that we do for ourselves. By forgiving our ex, we can experience the freedom and healing that comes from releasing the hurt and anger that we hold onto.