Biblical Answer

The Nature of Goodness

To address the question of whether one can still be a good person even when they've made mistakes and hurt others, we must first consider the nature of goodness. Goodness is not merely about feeling good or doing things that bring us pleasure. Rather, it is about living in accordance with our nature and doing what is right, even when it is difficult. As Aristotle noted, living in sync with our nature was essential to being or becoming good. This means that we must strive to do good, not just to feel good.

The Consequences of Mistakes

When we make mistakes and hurt others, it can be tempting to feel like we are beyond redemption. We may feel like our reputation is ruined, and that we have lost the trust of those around us. However, this is not necessarily the case. While our mistakes may have consequences, they do not define us as people. We have the power to choose how we respond to our mistakes, and we can take steps to make amends and work towards healing and forgiveness. As the quote suggests, "you will never be the same" if you are willing to forgive and make restitution for your mistakes.

The Importance of Forgiveness

Forgiveness is a crucial aspect of being a good person, even when we've made mistakes. Forgiveness does not mean that we condone or excuse our mistakes, but rather that we release the negative emotions associated with them. It is not about thinking others nice, but rather about choosing to love and forgive them, even when they have hurt us. By choosing to forgive, we can break free from the cycle of bitterness and anger that can hold us hostage. This allows us to move forward and to grow as individuals, becoming more faithful, self-controlled, and loving, not just for our friends and family, but for our enemies as well.