Biblical Answer

The Nature of Selfishness

Is it selfish to want a better outcome? The answer to this question is not as straightforward as it may seem. On one hand, wanting a better outcome can be a natural and healthy desire. It is a fundamental aspect of human nature to strive for improvement and progress. However, when this desire is driven by a focus on personal gain or self-interest, it can cross the line into selfishness. Scripture warns us against doing anything out of selfishness or empty conceit (Phil. 2:3 NASB). This suggests that true selfishness is not just about getting what we want, but about doing so at the expense of others or with a disregard for their well-being.

Selfishness in the Wrong Sense

Selfishness in the wrong sense is about seeking our own good at the expense of others. This is not the kind of selfishness that is acceptable or even desirable. When we prioritize our own interests over the needs and well-being of others, we are acting out of a misguided sense of self-importance. This can lead to hurtful and damaging behavior, both towards others and towards ourselves. In contrast, a truly selfless person is willing to put the needs of others before their own, even if it means sacrificing their own desires or interests. This is the kind of selflessness that is embodied in the teachings of Jesus, who said, "Give me all. I don't want so much of your time and so little of your love" (Matthew 22:37-40).

The Christian Perspective

From a Christian perspective, selfishness is not about getting what we want, but about living a life that is centered on God and His will. When we prioritize our relationship with God and our love for others, we are able to see the world in a different light. We begin to understand that our desires and interests are not the most important things in life. Instead, we are called to live a life of service, sacrifice, and selflessness. This is not to say that we should never want a better outcome or strive for our own happiness. Rather, it is to say that we should do so in a way that is guided by a sense of humility, compassion, and love for others. As the Bible says, "Let each of you regard one another as more important than himself" (Phil. 2:3 NASB). When we live this way, we are able to break free from the cycle of selfishness and live a life that is truly fulfilling and meaningful.