Biblical Answer

The Illusion of Control

The question of why you can't have a normal life is rooted in the illusion of control. We often believe that we have the power to design our lives, to make choices that will lead to happiness and fulfillment. However, this is an illusion. Our genes, our parents, our geographical location, and our cultural setting all play a significant role in shaping who we are and what we desire. We did not choose these factors, and yet we often act as if we have complete control over our lives.

The Problem of Consistency

Living consistently with our values and worldview is essential to a fruitful life. However, this is often impossible. If we live consistently with our values, we will not be happy; if we live happily, it is only because we are not consistent. This is because our values and worldview are often in conflict with our desires and the pressures of life. For example, if we value honesty but are tempted to lie to get ahead in our careers, we may struggle to live consistently with our values. This can lead to feelings of guilt, shame, and anxiety.

The Need for Surrender

The only way to break free from the illusion of control and the problem of consistency is to surrender to God's sovereignty. This means acknowledging that He is in control, not us, and that He has a plan for our lives that is greater than our own desires and plans. It means trusting that God will do what is best for us, even if it doesn't make sense to us. This is not easy, but it is necessary if we want to live a life that reflects God's values and teachings. By surrendering to God's sovereignty, we can find peace, joy, and fulfillment, even in the midst of uncertainty and difficulty. As the Bible says, "I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me" (Philippians 4:13). By trusting in God's strength, we can overcome the obstacles that stand in the way of a normal life.