Biblical Answer

The Struggle Between Selfishness and Selflessness

#### Understanding Selfishness

Selfishness is a natural tendency in humanity, often driven by a desire for personal gain, comfort, or convenience. In the context of relationships, selfishness can manifest as a refusal to compromise, a lack of empathy, or an unwillingness to sacrifice one's own needs for the benefit of others. However, this selfishness is not always malicious; it can also stem from a desire to protect oneself from hurt or disappointment.

#### The Christian Perspective on Selfishness

From a Christian perspective, selfishness is not only a natural tendency but also a sinful one. The Bible teaches that true love and selflessness are essential components of a Christian's life (John 13:34-35). Jesus' command to "give me all" (Matthew 22:37-40) highlights the importance of prioritizing others over oneself. In marriage, this selflessness is crucial for building a strong and healthy relationship. As the Apostle Paul writes, "Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things" (1 Corinthians 13:7).

#### Overcoming Selfishness

To overcome selfishness, one must first recognize its presence in their life. This requires a willingness to examine one's motivations and actions in the context of relationships. The Bible teaches that we should "put off" our old self, which is characterized by selfishness, and "put on" a new self, which is marked by selflessness and love (Ephesians 4:22-24). This transformation is possible through a personal relationship with Jesus Christ, who empowers believers to live a life of selflessness and love (Galatians 5:22-23). By praying for God's guidance and empowerment, individuals can learn to prioritize others and develop a heart of selflessness, even in the face of challenges and difficulties. Ultimately, selflessness is not a sign of weakness but a testament to the strength of one's faith and commitment to living a life that honors God.