Biblical Answer

The Challenge of Starting Over After 25 Years of Marriage

The question of whether one can start over after 25 years of marriage is a complex and challenging one. It's natural to wonder if it's possible to begin anew, especially when the marriage has been long-standing. The Bible teaches us that marriage is a sacred institution, ordained by God, and that it has the potential to be a beautiful and fulfilling relationship (Genesis 2:24, Ephesians 5:25-33). However, it also acknowledges that marriage can be difficult and that sometimes it may not work out as planned.

The issue at hand is not just about starting over, but also about what kind of life we want to build around our relationships. As the Bible says, "Around which world is your life centered?" (Psalm 119:32). If our life is centered on God and eternity, then even in the midst of difficulties, we can find ways to make our marriage work. However, if our life is centered on our own desires and interests, then it may be more challenging to make the marriage succeed. The Bible also teaches us that our brains are wired to form strong connections with others, and that after several decades together, our brains can become deeply intertwined (Ephesians 5:31).

In light of these biblical principles, starting over after 25 years of marriage is not necessarily a straightforward or easy process. It requires a deep commitment to seeking God's will and guidance, as well as a willingness to work through the challenges and difficulties that arise. It's also essential to consider the impact on our children, if we have any, and to prioritize their well-being and happiness. Ultimately, the decision to start over or to work through the challenges of our marriage is a personal one that requires careful consideration, prayer, and guidance from God. As the Bible says, "Seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you" (Matthew 6:33).