Biblical Answer

The biblical answer to how many times one should forgive is not limited to a specific number, but rather is based on a principle. In Matthew 18:21-22, Jesus replied to Peter's question, "Not seven times, but seventy-seven times." The word "seventy-seven" is actually a translation of the Greek word "myriads," which means "countless" or "innumerable." Jesus is teaching that forgiveness should be limitless and unconditional. He is saying that we should forgive not just seven times, but every time our brother sins against us, without keeping track or expecting anything in return.

The concept of forgiveness is not just about the number of times we forgive, but about the attitude and heart with which we forgive. Forgiveness is not about forgetting or excusing the hurt or offense, but about releasing the bitterness and resentment that can consume us. It's about choosing to let go of the past and move forward, not because the other person deserves it, but because God calls us to forgive and love our enemies (Matthew 5:44). Forgiveness is a process, not an event, and it requires effort and intentionality on our part.

So, how do we know if we have forgiven someone? We forgive when we can say, "Father, I forgive them, not because they deserve it, but because You have asked me to" (Luke 6:27-36). We forgive when we can release the hurt and anger, and choose to love and bless the person who wronged us. Forgiveness is not about the other person, but about our own relationship with God and our response to His call to love and forgive. It's a choice we make, not because it feels good, but because it's what God requires of us. As the Bible says, "Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you" (Ephesians 4:32).