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Your Question:
Can I really forgive my ex for what they did to me?
Answer:
Forgiveness is a choice we make to free ourselves from the burden of unforgiveness. I've learned that forgiveness doesn't mean the other person is right, it means we're choosing to let go of the hurt and anger. When I finally understood that, I found great breakthrough in forgiving others. Forgiveness is trusting that God can bring healing and restoration, even if the other person doesn't change. As a pastor, I've seen how unforgiveness can poison a person's soul. It's not just about the other person; it's about how we choose to respond. When we forgive, we're not saying what they did was okay, but rather that we're choosing to release the hold it has on us. It's liberating to let go of the anger and hurt, and it's a choice we make every day. I've instructed our children at church that forgiveness is a choice, and if we don't forgive, it brings death into our lives in one form or another. As a father, I've had to teach my children the importance of forgiveness. When they've wronged us, we need to approach them and own our sin without any buts. We need to talk about the specifics of the past wrong and end by asking for their forgiveness. Saying "I'm sorry" is not enough; we need to follow it with "Will you forgive me?" This helps to restore the relationship and demonstrates to our children that we, too, live under the authority of Jesus.
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