Biblical Answer

The best way to show kindness to those around us when we're feeling isolated is to put on a friendly manner and behave as if you were a nicer person than you actually are. This approach may seem artificial at first, but it can lead to genuine feelings of kindness and connection with others. By initiating friendly conversations, doing something for them, or going somewhere with them, we can break down barriers and build relationships. However, it's essential to recognize that we have different life plans, purposes, and ways of interacting with others, and that some people may be struggling with isolation and loneliness.

When we're feeling isolated, it's easy to get caught up in our own thoughts and feelings, but it's crucial to consider the needs and perspectives of others. We should ask ourselves if there are kernels of truth in the things people are saying to us, and be willing to listen and learn from them. By giving our attention and interest to others, showing them goodwill, and being open in a friendly way, we can create space for meaningful connections to form. As Proverbs 4:23 reminds us, "Watch over your heart with all diligence, for from it flow the springs of life." By being intentional about kindness and connection, we can cultivate a sense of community and belonging.

In addition to being intentional about kindness, it's also essential to be willing to receive affection and connection from others. This may require us to be vulnerable and open, even if it feels uncomfortable or awkward. A study by Virginia Satir suggests that people need at least twelve hugs a day to feel loved and connected. By being willing to give and receive affection, we can create a sense of safety and connection with others. As the Bible reminds us, "A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger" (Proverbs 15:1). By choosing kindness and compassion, we can build stronger relationships and create a more loving and supportive community.