Biblical Answer

From a Christian perspective, finding a new sense of self is not about discovering a separate, individual self, but about being liberated from the old self and its sins and flaws. This is a process of transformation that requires surrendering to God and allowing Him to redefine who we are. It involves a change of mind (metanoia) that results in a change of life, where we no longer see ourselves as the center of our own existence, but rather as beings created and loved by God. This new self is not about self-existence, but about living in relation to God and being shaped by His character.

The Christian understanding of self is rooted in the idea that we are not ultimately defined by our own identities, but by our relationship with God. This means that our true self is found not in our psychology or our own understanding of ourselves, but in our contemplation of God's face and our surrender to Him. As St. Augustine said, "You are found indeed in your appearances, in which in many ways ... you encounter the minds of those who understand you in the way in which you allow yourself to be understood - not what you are, but what you allow yourself to be." This means that our true self is not fixed or static, but is constantly being revealed and shaped by our relationship with God.

In this sense, finding a new sense of self is not about self-improvement or self-discovery, but about surrendering to God and allowing Him to remake us in His image. It involves denying ourselves and our own selfish desires, and instead seeking to live out of what we find in God. As Jesus said, "Whoever loses his life for my sake will save it" (Luke 9:24). This means that our true self is not something we can achieve on our own, but something that is given to us by God as we surrender to Him and allow Him to shape us into the image of Christ. As Yehuda Berg said, "All of the negative traits that you spot in others are merely a reflection of your own negative traits. Only by fixing yourself can you change others." But from a Christian perspective, we don't fix ourselves by trying to change ourselves, but by surrendering to God and allowing Him to remake us in His image.