Biblical Answer

The Challenges of Community: Feeling Not Good Enough

Living in community can be a challenging experience, especially when we feel like we're not good enough. We may become aware of the shortcomings of others, but instead of focusing on our own flaws, we might feel inclined to broadcast theirs publicly. However, a wise person would choose to remain silent about such matters. As Proverbs 11:12b says, "A wise person remains silent about such matters." This wisdom is essential in maintaining harmony within the community.

When we feel like we're not good enough, it's easy to become frustrated and discouraged. We might feel like we're operating in a community that is flawed or inefficient. However, the reality is that no community is perfect. As Lauren Winner notes, "If you are a twenty-six-year-old who has just moved across the country for grad school, the role your community can play is limited." Our expectations of community can be unrealistic, and we need to be patient and understanding when we encounter flaws and imperfections. By focusing on our own character and growth, we can learn to navigate the challenges of community and develop a deeper sense of belonging.

Ultimately, feeling not good enough in community is a personal issue that requires a personal response. Rather than trying to change others or the community as a whole, we need to focus on our own character and attitude. As Proverbs 22:16 says, "The wise will inherit good, but fools get caught in their own folly." By choosing to learn from our mistakes and take responsibility for our actions, we can grow and develop as individuals, and contribute positively to the community around us. This requires humility, self-awareness, and a willingness to listen and learn from others. By embracing these qualities, we can build stronger, more resilient communities that are based on truth, love, and mutual support.