Biblical Answer

Can I Really Trust My Own Instincts After This?

Understanding the Problem

You're asking if you can really trust your own instincts after being hurt or deceived in a past relationship. The situation you described involves a person who lied to you in the past, and now you're wondering how you can trust them again. This is a common concern when we've been hurt by someone we trusted. The issue is not just about trusting the other person, but also about trusting ourselves and our instincts.

The Danger of Unchecked Thoughts

The Bible warns us that if we harbor deceptive thoughts and let them take root in our hearts, we will eventually act on them (Proverbs 4:23). This means that if we're not careful, our thoughts can lead us astray, causing us to make decisions that are not in line with God's will. In the context of relationships, this can lead to more hurt and deception. So, how can you trust your own instincts when you're not sure what's going on inside your heart and mind?

Seeking Guidance from God

The solution to this problem is not to rely solely on your own instincts, but to seek guidance from God. The Bible tells us to "test everything; hold fast what is good" (1 Thessalonians 5:21). This means that we should not just rely on our own feelings and instincts, but also seek to understand God's perspective on the situation. We can do this by reading His Word, praying for wisdom, and seeking guidance from trusted friends and mentors. By doing so, we can gain a deeper understanding of ourselves and the situation, and make decisions that are in line with God's will. As the Bible says, "Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight" (Proverbs 3:5-6).