Biblical Answer

The Nature of Goodness and Forgiveness

When we consider the possibility of being a good person despite making mistakes and hurting others, we must first understand the nature of goodness. According to Yehuda Berg, goodness is not merely a product of feeling good or experiencing pleasure. Rather, it is a choice we make, a decision to act with kindness and compassion regardless of our emotions. This perspective on goodness is closely tied to the Christian concept of loving our neighbors as ourselves (Mark 12:31). As Christians, we are called to love others not simply because it feels good, but because it is a fundamental aspect of our relationship with God and with one another.

The Importance of Forgiveness

Forgiveness is an essential aspect of being a good person, especially when we have hurt others. Berg notes that holding onto resentment and anger can lead to despair and a deepening of negative emotions. In contrast, choosing to forgive others allows us to release the burden of our negative emotions and to focus on loving and relating to others in a positive way. This perspective is supported by the biblical teaching on forgiveness, which emphasizes the importance of forgiving others as we have been forgiven by God (Matthew 6:14-15). By choosing to forgive others, we not only release them from the consequences of their actions, but also free ourselves from the negative emotions that can bind us.

The Process of Growth and Restoration

Finally, it's essential to recognize that being a good person is not a static state, but rather a process of growth and restoration. Berg notes that mistakes and failures can be opportunities for growth and learning, rather than sources of discouragement. As Christians, we are called to grow in love and compassion, not just for our friends and family, but also for our enemies (Matthew 5:44). This process of growth and restoration is possible because of God's love and forgiveness, which empowers us to choose goodness and forgiveness even in the face of adversity. By embracing this process, we can become the good people God created us to be, despite our mistakes and failures.