Biblical Answer

The Problem of Relying on Others

Relying on others for everything can be a major obstacle to personal growth and change. When we expect others to change us, we are essentially expecting the impossible. Our right person cannot change us, and we are wasting our most valuable resource: time. This dependency can be an indication of a deeper issue, such as a lack of self-awareness or a fear of taking responsibility for our own lives.

The Importance of Self-Determination

As humans, we are wired to desire self-determination and independence. We want to be the masters of our own destinies, and we believe that living without mutual dependence on society or community is possible only if we are willing to take responsibility for our own lives. However, this desire for independence can sometimes lead us to believe that we can change others, which is not only impossible but also a hindrance to our own growth.

Breaking Free from Dependency

To break free from dependency on others, we must first acknowledge our own limitations and weaknesses. We must be willing to take responsibility for our own lives and recognize that others cannot change us. This requires fierce independence, which should eventually lead to inter-dependence with other healthy people. By embracing our own flaws and weaknesses, we can begin to see that our worth and value come not from our own accomplishments or external validation but from our relationship with God. This understanding can help us to break free from the futility of blame and expectation, and instead, we can focus on our own growth and development, trusting in God's sovereignty and guidance.