Biblical Answer

When a family member asks for money, it can be a delicate situation, especially if you're not sure how they'll use it. As Christians, we're called to be generous and help those in need, but we also need to be wise and discerning in our giving. In 1 Corinthians 6:1-8, the Apostle Paul writes, "If any of you has a dispute with another, do not take it to court. Instead, as believers in the Lord, why do you file lawsuits among yourselves? Do you not know that the saints will judge the world? And if you are to judge the world, are you not competent to judge trivial cases? Do you not know that we will judge angels? How much more the things of this life! Therefore, if you have disputes about such matters, appoint as judges even men of little account in the church. I say this to shame you. Is it possible that there is nobody among you wise enough to be judge between brothers? But instead, you bring it before outsiders to be judged instead of before brothers? Now I say to you that if any of you has a dispute with another, even regarding something as minor as money, seek reconciliation with that person before giving them anything."

In this passage, Paul is emphasizing the importance of reconciliation and forgiveness in our relationships, even when it comes to money. He's saying that before we give someone money, we should try to resolve any issues or conflicts we may have with them. This can be a difficult and uncomfortable process, but it's essential for building strong relationships and maintaining a healthy sense of community within our families and churches. As we seek to be good stewards of our finances, we should also be mindful of the relationships we're building and the impact our giving may have on those relationships.

So, what can we do when a family member asks for money? First, we should take a step back and assess the situation. Are there any underlying issues or conflicts that need to be addressed before we give them money? Are they responsible with their finances, or are they likely to squander it on something foolish? Are they willing to work hard and earn their own money, or are they expecting handouts? By asking these questions and seeking guidance from the Lord, we can make wise decisions about how to give and when to give. We can also use this opportunity to teach our family members about the importance of financial responsibility and the value of hard work. Ultimately, our goal should be to build strong relationships and promote a culture of generosity, forgiveness, and reconciliation within our families and churches.