Biblical Answer

Showing Kindness to Friends When They're Sad

As a follower of Jesus, we are called to show kindness and compassion to our friends, especially when they are struggling with sadness. When someone is depressed, it can be challenging to know how to respond, but the Bible reminds us that "a friend loves at all times" (Proverbs 17:17). In order to show kindness to our friends, we need to be present with them, listening to their struggles and offering support. This may mean simply being there, without trying to offer solutions or fixes. As the Scripture says, "there is a time to be silent, and a time to speak" (Ecclesiastes 3:7).

When our friends are sad, it's essential to approach them with sensitivity and understanding. We need to be aware of the barriers and risks that can make it difficult for them to pursue joy. Depression can sometimes be a loathsome companion, but there is also a good kind that can lead to real healing. In this case, we can show kindness by offering physical affection, such as hugs, which can help to release endorphins and promote feelings of well-being. As the study by Virginia Satir suggests, people need at least twelve hugs every day to grow and thrive.

However, we must also be mindful of the importance of timing and approach. It's not always the right time to try to fix the problem or offer solutions. Sometimes, it's better to simply be present and listen. As the Scripture says, "a friend is always loyal, and a brother is born to help in time of need" (Proverbs 17:17). By being a good friend and showing kindness to those who are struggling with sadness, we can help to create a safe and supportive environment where they can feel heard and understood. This, in turn, can help to promote healing and growth. By following Jesus' example of kindness and compassion, we can make a positive impact on the lives of those around us.