Biblical Answer

Loving difficult people is not easy, but it is essential to our spiritual growth and our relationships with others. When we love difficult people, we are not trying to change them or get them to do what we want, but rather we are choosing to see them as God sees them - as beloved children of God, worthy of love and respect, regardless of their behavior. This means accepting them instead of disapproving of them, listening to them instead of judging them, and giving our opinion when asked, while couching our words in a supportive and loving manner.

The key to loving difficult people is to choose to love them, not because we feel fond of them, but because we love them as God loves them. This means being consistent in our love, even when it is hard, and following through on consequences, even when it is difficult. It also means being patient and understanding, and not trying to prevent their difficulties, but rather praying that their difficulties will grow stronger, until they are forced to seek God's help. We must also be willing to listen to them, touch them, and look them in the eye, and remind them of God's love and acceptance, even when they are disobedient.

Ultimately, loving difficult people is about choosing to love them, not because of who they are or what they do, but because of who God is and what He has done for us. It is about seeing them as God sees them, and loving them with the same love that God loves us. This means being willing to confront them with tough love, when necessary, but also being willing to offer a soft answer to turn away wrath. It means being a loving friend and sympathetic listener, and being willing to counsel and offer guidance, when needed. Most importantly, it means being willing to love them, even when it is hard, and being willing to follow God's example of loving us, even when we are difficult.